Getting my head around hoarding

Just wanted to share some resources as I develop my practice and learn more about those struggling with this challenging behaviour. I was recommended a couple books, one is ‘Understanding Hoarding’ by Jo Cooke who ‘gives expert advice and support to those affected by hoarding disorder’, and her website is packed full of useful information. She also offers training for those like me who are learning as they go along.

From my small experience, I can just say, that I underestimated how emotional and complex this subject is. I have found that the families find it difficult to talk about especially with the person who is being affected. It’s a tricky subject to broach, for those affected it can feel like an attack, which is fair response! For the person hoarding it’s not a problem as such, their collections are very important in ways that no one else can truly understand. For family members who need a bit of help addressing the issues, this is a good icebreaker form. The clutter image ratings form is also very useful in getting an accurate sense of a clutter problem.

I was also recommended a book called ‘Making Space’ by Sarah Tierney. A story about an unsuspecting temp ending up on a one-off job helping a hoarder ‘organise some papers’. She learns very quickly the mammoth task she has on her hands. It’s a good read because it has some good insights into the mind of the hoarder and their perspective and the fact that that label might duly offend them; as far as they are concerned, there is no problem, it is just part of their creative landscape.

I hope those are of some help, I think if someone you care about is suffering with this, it’s useful to gain as much understanding as possible so you are armed with knowledge. Often people think they are helping by imposing massive clear-outs on the owner of the collections, but it can be too traumatic and do more harm than good. We all make mistakes, and ultimately only want to help those we love. Hopefully these resources can help you make a start.

Here is a testimonial from someone who took part in the Hoarding Disorders UK Training:

“As an adult child of a hoarder I have found this training immensely helpful. You have given both the disorder and those who are challenged by it the respect which they deserve. I have gained a much deeper understanding of hoarding which has helped me to both mange my expectations and feel much less overwhelmed. Your pointing out that it takes a village to help in hoarding situations has lessened the responsibility I feel, enabling me to relate better, and I have already started to notice the village which is already present and working to support my family. Thank you so much for this wonderful course.”